Many times, folks get in their own way.
Good things come to them but they have the uncanny ability to stuff things up. When success is in easy reach of their fingers, they pull their hands away.
Why is this?
It’s a question that I have pondered many times over the years. A question that has seen me read hundreds of books on the subject; go to the seminars, debate this question over wine with sharp-minded friends.
It SHOULD interest you as well if living a successful life, in ALL areas of your life, is important to you.
It’s a good question.
Why do folks fail so near the finishing line?
A good question like this begets many questions that need to be answered. If you think you may be suffering from this “fear of success” or whatever you want to call it, the questions below and my comments will help.
PERSONAL NOTE: Coming from a working class background and with a 20 or more year track record as a classical underachiever, I had a perverse way of stuffing up good things that came my way. It was only through extensive self-appraisal, the reading of dozens and dozens of books, that I was able to get rid of all the crap inside my head. (Most of it anyway.) This self-sabotaging behaviour is more common than you think. I’ve had many private conversations with clients, some of whom you’d know; who look extremely successful but have low self-images; many secretly feel guilty about their success.
Do you believe you will be financially successful? If you don’t really believe in your gut, that you can be successful, if you can’t see it and feel it, it makes it harder for you to achieve it.
Do you see yourself as a successful person now? Look, if you’re not successful now but you want to be and you’re working on yourself and your skills to be successful, then you should start feeling successful NOW, not later. You’ve got to feel successful because you are actively involved with shaping your own destiny. Fewer than 5% of the population do this!
Fewer than 5% of the population actually endeavour to improve themselves and add value to themselves. If you do, you damn well should see yourself as successful.
Do you think you deserve to be rich? Man, I’m going to write a book on this one. Some folks are hung up on money and when they get it, they spend it because they feel guilty. See Lotto winners for numerous examples. To be RICH, you have to think RICH. Believe in yourself that you deserve to be rich. Hey, why not you? RICH people aren’t smarter than the masses. They just think differently and get more done.
Do you realise success takes work? Folks who get caught up with the latest “attraction-fad”, who think if they think good thoughts they’ll get rich; are in 99.9% of the cases, left bitterly disappointment. Success is messy and it takes work. (You think I’m not working here?)
Do you feel superior to the masses? This one makes some people cringe. It’s very rarely spoken about. But here it is. Most successful people I know have a secret, unspoken feeling of superiority to the masses. And why shouldn’t they feel this way? They don’t bitch and moan, they get on with it. They don’t sit around wasting time, they move. They create jobs, move forward, help charities, improve themselves, push forward, put up with the bull shit of regulations, rules, taxation, staff, and on it goes. Of course they should feel superior! But here’s the thing, you’ve got to keep it to yourself. You can’t say it out loud. But you can sure damn well feel it… and you should!
Okay, I’m going to talk about this subject a bit more in the coming weeks on this blog. And in this month’s newsletter, in The Wizard On Wealth Section, I’ve written an article called “Charlie Sheen Implodes” that tackles this subject in detail. I talk about how and why some folks self-sabotage when success starts coming their way. I also talk about how I have opened doors for people, effectively fast-tracking their journey, and how it pains me when some do not reach their full potential, but slip back into anonymity.
Here’s how I summed it up in the newsletter…
“You see in life, doors can be opened for you so you get to your destination quicker, easier, and without all the fuss and angst of finding the right key for yourself. This can shave years and years off your journey so you get to your destination in record time. But here’s what I want you to get:
You’ve still got to be the right person to get through the door, and once through, you have to be the right person to remain in such an exclusive room.”
Okay, there’s more coming in future weeks. For now, I’m outta here as I’m half way through a BIG launch for a client plus multiple deadlines are looming on the horizon.
I’d love to hear your comments.
See you next week, Pete.
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