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Are you a TRUE Believer?

by Pete Godfrey · 24 comments

Are you a TRUE Believer?

Many times, folks get in their own way.

Good things come to them but they have the uncanny ability to stuff things up. When success is in easy reach of their fingers, they pull their hands away.

Why is this?

Many reasons.

It’s a question that I have pondered many times over the years. A question that has seen me read hundreds of books on the subject; go to the seminars, debate this question over wine with sharp-minded friends.

It SHOULD interest you as well if living a successful life, in ALL areas of your life, is important to you.

It’s a good question.

Why do folks fail so near the finishing line?

A good question like this begets many questions that need to be answered. If you think you may be suffering from this “fear of success” or whatever you want to call it, the questions below and my comments will help.

PERSONAL NOTE: Coming from a working class background and with a 20 or more year track record as a classical underachiever, I had a perverse way of stuffing up good things that came my way. It was only through extensive self-appraisal, the reading of dozens and dozens of books, that I was able to get rid of all the crap inside my head. (Most of it anyway.) This self-sabotaging behaviour is more common than you think. I’ve had many private conversations with clients, some of whom you’d know; who look extremely successful but have low self-images; many secretly feel guilty about their success.

Do you believe you will be financially successful? If you don’t really believe in your gut, that you can be successful, if you can’t see it and feel it, it makes it harder for you to achieve it.

Do you see yourself as a successful person now? Look, if you’re not successful now but you want to be and you’re working on yourself and your skills to be successful, then you should start feeling successful NOW, not later. You’ve got to feel successful because you are actively involved with shaping your own destiny. Fewer than 5% of the population do this!

Fewer than 5% of the population actually endeavour to improve themselves and add value to themselves. If you do, you damn well should see yourself as successful.

Do you think you deserve to be rich? Man, I’m going to write a book on this one. Some folks are hung up on money and when they get it, they spend it because they feel guilty. See Lotto winners for numerous examples. To be RICH, you have to think RICH. Believe in yourself that you deserve to be rich. Hey, why not you? RICH people aren’t smarter than the masses. They just think differently and get more done.

Do you realise success takes work? Folks who get caught up with the latest “attraction-fad”, who think if they think good thoughts they’ll get rich; are in 99.9% of the cases, left bitterly disappointment. Success is messy and it takes work. (You think I’m not working here?)

Do you feel superior to the masses? This one makes some people cringe. It’s very rarely spoken about. But here it is. Most successful people I know have a secret, unspoken feeling of superiority to the masses. And why shouldn’t they feel this way? They don’t bitch and moan, they get on with it. They don’t sit around wasting time, they move. They create jobs, move forward, help charities, improve themselves, push forward, put up with the bull shit of regulations, rules, taxation, staff, and on it goes. Of course they should feel superior! But here’s the thing, you’ve got to keep it to yourself. You can’t say it out loud. But you can sure damn well feel it… and you should!

Okay, I’m going to talk about this subject a bit more in the coming weeks on this blog. And in this month’s newsletter, in The Wizard On Wealth Section, I’ve written an article called “Charlie Sheen Implodes” that tackles this subject in detail. I talk about how and why some folks self-sabotage when success starts coming their way. I also talk about how I have opened doors for people, effectively fast-tracking their journey, and how it pains me when some do not reach their full potential, but slip back into anonymity.

Here’s how I summed it up in the newsletter

“You see in life, doors can be opened for you so you get to your destination quicker, easier, and without all the fuss and angst of finding the right key for yourself. This can shave years and years off your journey so you get to your destination in record time. But here’s what I want you to get:

You’ve still got to be the right person to get through the door, and once through, you have to be the right person to remain in such an exclusive room.”

Okay, there’s more coming in future weeks. For now, I’m outta here as I’m half way through a BIG launch for a client plus multiple deadlines are looming on the horizon.

I’d love to hear your comments.

See you next week, Pete.

NOTE: Parts of this article taken from my FREE Gift Bonus Pack available FREE to all new subscribers to my newsletter.

 

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Louise Bedford April 20, 2011 at 11:12 am

Top article Pete,

I’ve seen this happen with sharetraders time and time again. They get to the point where they are out of the bounds of their financial thermostat, and then they do everything they can to get comfortable again. They lose money so that their own view of their self worth doesn’t have to alter. Like watching a horror movie – but instead – it’s their life.

Love your stuff. Can’t get enough of it. Keep up the good work.

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 7:20 am

Thanks Louise… your comments reminded me of that interview we did a little while ago on the mindest of entrepreneurs… great stuff… also a reminder to share it with the world… you’ll hear from me soon Louise.

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Brian Cassingena April 20, 2011 at 11:18 am

Pete I’ve been following you for some time and trying to implement the stuff you’ve talked about here mate, I have had some success with this mindset as well as other times when it’s been really hard to keep the mindset I need to get rich. I know in my head what to do, how do I sustain this mindset no matter what happens? At the moment I’m getting better at it, though only through sheer unwillingness to give up. What’s your advice?

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 7:24 am

Brian, for me, it’s a never ending battle… every morning I’ve got to ‘do my thing’ to get my head straight for the day ahead. There’s still a lot of rebel in me, still a part of me that could just chill out all day and party… however I’ve got a clear picture of where I’m going and the man I wanna be when I get there so this keeps me focused.

Also, the more wins you have, the more confident you feel, so buddy, keep geting those wins no matter how small or big they all add up!

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Ben Schmidt April 20, 2011 at 11:31 am

Hey Pete

Definately true mate it has to me made in the head before it can be made in the hand. Thanks also for getting rid of my guilt around feeling superior. I dont mean that in an egotistical way but i would have to say that sometimes, looking at all the rubbish out there that all the drones eagerly feast on then repeat and spread as if gospel really makes me grateful for my perspective.

Keep up the good work mate

Cheers Ben

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 7:26 am

Cheers Ben… and yeah, plenty of rubbish out there but that doesn’t mean we have to step in it! Also, yeah, it’s not the kind of superiority where we lord it over others… more like a quiet, dignified self-confidence, confidence bred from doing what the masses wont. Insightful comment mate, thanks.

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Glenn Twiddle April 20, 2011 at 11:40 am

Gotta say Pete, I was recently called the Larry Winget of Australian Real Estate, and man what a compliment but we really are our own worst enemies sometimes.

I think my next book is going to be called ‘Your Real Estate Career Sux Because You WANT it to Suck’

Hey I get it, I’ve been an idiot more often than not, but when great blokes and mentors like yourself and our mutual mate MAl Emery give me advice, I’m stupid enough just to do it, and ask questions later. Bites me in the arse from time to time, but mostly serves me well.

Thanks as always Pete,

Gonna come up with some titles. Wonder which one the wizard likes.

Glenn Twiddle
Rabid Wolverine of Real Estate Training
Rogue of Real Estate
Rogue Marketer of Real Estate
Real Estate Revolutionary
Renegade Rogue of Real Estate

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 7:27 am

Yeah Larry Winget is cool and gives it to `em straight.

As for your book title mate… well… I might have to tell you that one in person okay?

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Christina April 20, 2011 at 11:53 pm

I totally agree with the mindset battle that you talked about! AND that it sure is hard work to be successful.

They should say the truth in sucess books. They should say this- “If you want to get rich then be ready for years of torture. Yes, that’s right, you will be bended and twisted into all sorts of weird shapes by the stress of it all, your hair will be frizzy, and you will have pains in your gut from stress. Some days you won’thave time to brush your teeth, but it won’t matter because you aren’t going anywhere any way. Yes, that’s right, say goodbye to parties and your social life because you will be studying for so many years that your family and friends will think you are a loony bin, and most of your frineds will dump you because you spend all day glued to your computer instead of being with them.

Your new best buddy will be your fluffy tracksuit from kmart that you study in, and when you have visitors knocking on the door, you will have to run and hide and let someone else open the door, because you are so tired, and your hair is frizzy, and you are wearing your fluffy tracksuit, and because of that you are too embarrassed to face them, Someone else will have to make them coffee while you do a speedy gonzales and get dressed into something nicer than your fluffy tracksuit

You won’thave time to buy a proper computer chair because you are busy studying, so you will grab a chair from the kitchen table to use at your computer, and then you will get a sore back for years because it’s not “ergonomical”

Plus you can take your pick- do you want to lose weight from the stress of studying all night for years, or do you want to pile on weight and become a big fatso because you snack on junk all night while you study?

Some days the dark cirlces under your eyes will be so bad that you will look like something out of a cheap 80’s horror flick.

Oh yeah, and one last thing- as soon as you do become a success, all your long lost “friends” will turn up at your door, knocking and saying “even though we haven’t seen much of each other over the years, the bond is still there”

You gotta laugh 🙂

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 7:28 am

Sometimes Kristina, when it comes to old friends from the past who haven’t changed but you have… well sometimes you realise the only thing you have in common is a shared history…

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Ian Newton April 21, 2011 at 10:42 am

Hi Pete, firstly thanks for your honest comments about my crappy sales letter. I agree about feeling superior. If we want to take a superior position i.e. taking action, creating something worthwhile etc then watching the news drinking beer of an evening isn’t going to cut it.
We need superior thinking, action and commitment, so superior it is! Of course I don”t feel better then others, I just don’t want to think like the masses.
Cheers
Ian

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 10:58 am

Hey Ian, yeah we did have a profitable 20 minutes didn’t we? (And to think, those 20 minutes were free to you as part of your newsletter membership. Frankly, I’ve got rocks in my head giving so much away… but I do enjoy chatting with and helping my subscribers.)

And I think your last sentence sums it up perfectly mate.

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Mark Fregnan April 21, 2011 at 11:41 am

Gday Pete,

Sounds like you’ve been listening to the Big 8 CDs from Dan Kennedy.
Totally agree – good post.

Mark Fregnan
Profit Growth Specialist

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 3:54 pm

Hey Mark, there wouldn’t be a Dan Kennedy product I haven’t got or studied… however, wasn’t listening to the Big Ideas one when I wrote this… however, it is a damn good product. Glad you enjoyed my post.

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Steve Plummer April 21, 2011 at 12:12 pm

Hey Pete, Great post and oh so true… can really relate to it. Some people comment of how “lucky” I have been to snare the job as Mal’s personal copywriter. Depending on who it is and the circumstances of the comment I’ll smile and agree or tell it to them straight… luck had very little to do with it. What was more important was the time I devoted to learning the craft… the literally tens of thousands of dollars I’ve spent every year for the past several years… the weekends away at seminars that could have been spent instead with a few quiet ales with family and friends… the late nights honing my skills after a long 10 hour day at work… saying no to family and friends because I had a bigger goal in mind (like the times I stayed up writing till 3 or 4 in the morning helping Bret out with those overnight makeover gigs he was doign for Mal)… the travel to be in the environment that would help create my success…. Luck? Hardly. Burning desire to succeed. Persistence. Doing it anyway. Being willing to take a chance. Having a bigger goal in mind… Hard work when I didn’t really feel like… all of these I reckon were way more important than luck. Take all of them away and “luck” would have me back stuck in my old job and “getting by” but being unhappy… take away “luck” and I reckon I’d be doing pretty well any how. Reckon it’s worthwhile all of us taking a minute to think this one through and reflect on where we’ve come from and where we want to be, so thanks for the post!
Cheers,
Steve

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 3:57 pm

Steve, you lucky bastard!

Sorry buddy, couldn’t resist.

And yeah, success is made away from the spotlight, doing the hard yards, saying no to easier options.

Thanks for your comment mate… reminds me of my early years.

Trust Mal hasn’t got you working over easter buddy and you can relax and have that ale and just be with your family.

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Alan April 21, 2011 at 1:54 pm

Hi Pete,
just started reading your blog…after hearing you on Mal’s CD of the month… listened to you for just about that month nearly every day in the car….I know that CD off by heart! ..that and other CD’s is how I’ve changed the mindset….being brought up in Scotland and working in the shipyards it was all a bit left of Lennin ( not John!) so its taking years to unravel!! …you and Mel do great stuff and look forward to reading and learning more. All the best and have a Happy Easter!
cheers,
Alan

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Pete Godfrey April 21, 2011 at 3:59 pm

Thanks Alan and it’s great to have you here.

And yeah, I can relate to the left wing past.

The good thing is we CAN change…we’re not stuck in the ground like a tree… we can actually move and grow.

thanks for sharing.

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Anne Langlois April 21, 2011 at 6:55 pm

As a budding entrepreneur who’s just finding her feet and walking new paths previously prohibited by mindset, your point about superiority couldn’t have come at a better time for me!
In having to change my persona to grow and be comfortable with “the wealth mentality” and having to present myself differently because of it, its made me feel a little bit like a show pony. “Country Bumpkin turned Slick Chic” has put me way out of my comfort zone. After reading your comment it cemented and confirmed – it’s not that I’m trying to betray myself as someone who is “superior” – in as much as it is “taking action to be who it is I need to be, to go to that next level.”
It has never been my intention to be superior – “only wiser and courageous.” I need to get over what others think about me and know that I’m doing all of this for the right reasons.
Probably the only reason people interpret this differently is because at some level they feel threatened …. “because you’ve had the guts to do, what they wish they could, but know they NEVER will.”
Looking forward to meeting you at the Intensive copywriting Semiar soon. Thanks for being so honest. If we’re to succeed we need to deal with these kind of roadbumps on our journey. Anne

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Pete Godfrey April 23, 2011 at 7:20 am

Hey Anne, great comments… and… I experienced the same thing all those years ago when I broke free from my past. Also, the first couple of years was tough… I found myself playing down what I did when with old friends. Basically, bringing myself down to their level so I wouldn’t offend. One day I just said stuff it. I’m gonna shine no matter who gets offended. Looking forward to catching up at the Copywriting Intensive Anne… so much to share with you.

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Christina April 23, 2011 at 12:10 am

Wow, I can’t beleive I’m not the only lonely entrepeneur out there! There are more of them squirrelled away everywhere. That’s comforting to know. Everyone I know says that I have printed so much stuff and used so much paper while I’ve been learning, that I’m responsible for half the amazon coming down 🙂

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Pete Godfrey April 23, 2011 at 7:33 am

You’re definitely NOT alone Christina… and that’s why it’s important to hang out with other entrepreneurs, whether that’s here on blogs like this, or at live meetings etc. That’s one of the many benefits my offline newsletter members tell is very important to them… they feel like part of a entrepreneurial family and never feel alone…

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Monika Mundell April 25, 2011 at 7:08 pm

Hey Pete,

Sorry to be late to the party, but I couldn’t help to comment on this killer post. I can totally relate to your post. Let me tell you, I’ve had the best and worst months ever – back to back. I know EXACTLY how tough it is to work when you don’t feel like it – and to stick to deadlines when everyone else but you is having a good time. It’s the price you pay for being successful and for following your dreams.

Right now I’m having a touch time trying to run the business surrounded by kids, family and great sights (I’m sure you know what I mean). I’ve let myself down this month, trying to battle the “other mindset” and to have a break, and I can’t wait for the workshop next month, knowing that it will kick my butt and productivity into overdrive again, lol. For me the toughest part is running a business without having a circle of friends/family who understand what it takes to escape the 9-5 grind.

Thank you Pete for this much-needed injection of “medicine.”

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Pete Godfrey April 27, 2011 at 10:47 am

Hey Monika, I’m looking forward to meeting you as well… and… we’ll be spending time on mindset issues that’s for sure… because ultimately, that’s where the money is.

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